My sixty-five-year-old body increasingly reminds me of my age. For the past several months I limped around because my left side, from hip to ankle, has been hurting and dragging. For the first time in my life, walking and climbing stairs was painful. In retrospect and to my detriment, I probably never gave my body the attention it deserves. A parishioner recommended an eastern massage therapist to help me. While digging in to loosen scar tissue and break up adhesions the Chinese doctor softly said, “I know it hurts, but it must be this way.”
No pain, no gain…no guts, no glory…no cross, no crown…no crucifixion, then no resurrection. This, I understand. Our Christian faith, our health, our gamesmanship, and our very life is based on the notion that suffering brings redemption and that sacrifice can bring satisfaction or even sanctification. Saint John Paul II popularized a “Theology of the Body” by looking critically at the Judeo-Christian creation story and connecting it to our material form, physical development, emotional maturation, social and sexual relationships, marriage, and care for the body as the Temple of the Holy Spirit. Our bodies are a gift to us, even though Saint Paul and other theologians suggest that they are also a curse: the material cross we bear through earthly existence. Hence, it must be this way.
John Paul II claimed that the original scriptural issues of solitude, unity, and nakedness are foundational to our human and divine relationships. When young, we discover our bodies and all the abilities that we possess in them to maneuver through challenges. In adolescence, when hormones go wild and bodies gain form, we discover our sexual desires and develop greater physical prowess. John Mayer’s song, Your Body is a Wonderland, typifies that burgeoning stage when concupiscence and libido flourish. Great mystics suggest that we can transform this ardent longing into a passion that moves us from the physical to the spiritual—though even the most religious among us struggle with modesty, discretion, and abstinence while vacillating between the two. But age changes that. Many married couples that used to get sexually excited in the presence of their naked partner forty years earlier now, after surgical marks, titanium bones, sagging muscles, and balding or greying hair, point at each other’s body and laugh. It’s all part of the aging process and it, too, must be this way.
Though the church wants us to treat our body as the Temple of the Holy Spirit from childhood to old age—and it labels common practices like tattoos and body-piercings as objective moral evils, no less than manipulation of sperm and eggs or tampering with genetics—we are getting better at understanding how such applications can sometimes be honorable, though ethics struggles to keep up with medical and technological advances. As our society deals with issues that uphold the dignity of the body against many things that have led to moral slippage, increased obesity, reliance on drugs, and general poor health, I cheer us on. I hope that pragmatic and spiritual aspects of reverencing the body will increase as we give more attention to good practices that might make America healthy again. The societal pushback may hurt, but maybe it must be this way.
So, I accept that my body is diminishing, and that my brain might follow, while I attempt to fight or hold back the aging process as best I can for as long as I can with good nutrition and exercise, though often I feel as weak as Mr. Burns of The Simpsons. Meanwhile, periodically, I will lay on a table where a guy digs into my skin and massages my bones to help me feel a little better as he inflicts redemptive pain. Then I will get up and walk or limp into an uncertain future for me, the church, and society, knowing that it must be this way.

This is one of those rare times that I cannot agree with you at all. Robert Kennedy Jr will not be good for our country if he gets put in that job. I am amazed that you would say this.
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Fr Don…so sorry that you’re not feeling your spry self…prayers for full healing of your body and greater ease of movement for you…from your favorite Arkansas Parishioner…Jen Perez
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Dear Father Don:As a new minted Nonagenarian, I was getting quite a chuckle about your perception of how couples of our age look at each other and still find ways to find joy in each other’s presence beyond the physical changes that our bodies have undergone in the many years of togetherness we have been blessed to share. But then you suggest that Robert Kennedy, a professed anti-vaxer, who wants to remove fluoride from our drinking water, and wants to eliminate liability for drug companies is someone on whom we should pin our hopes for a healthier populace going forward. With all due respect, I feel your logic in implying your support of his approach to leadership of this important part of our government is definitely flawed.Kathleen and I are so pleased in the ways you are raising awareness in the broader community to the needs of the three parishes you are responsible for. May God continue to give you the words to reach out to more in our community to join you in this effort.Sincerely,Al Kaine
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Thank you Father Don.
B. J.
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Fr. Don: You had me until you mentioned the name “Robert F. Kennedy, Jr.”
Joe Magerl
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I usually enjoy reading your blog. But after reading this I literally said out loud – what in the world? It is just off – something about the whole thing was just downright weird! I feel for what you are going through physically – I can relate – but everything else you wrote about was just off! And I agree with a lot of the other comments – RFK, Jr. – really? I mean come on – he is neither a doctor or scientist and I would hesitate to follow any of his advice. These are just my thoughts and I have enjoyed or related to most of your other blogs. Take care.
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Thank you Father Don, I so needed this today 🙏🏻
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Thank you father for sharing wisdom and light to our lives. May God keep you strong and enlighten throughout this new year 2025 🤗🤗
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